Public Service Announcement: Rape Is Bad
"Rape is a personal problem that cries out for a political solution. The solution to our cultural problems of sexual violence lies not only in the treatment of individual victims and offenders, but also in changing our culture. Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism. Sex is currently associated with violence, power, domination and status. The incidence of rape is increasing because because our culture's destructive messages about sexuality are increasing.
"Rape hurts us all, not just the victims. Rape keeps all women in a state of fear about all men. We must constantly be vigilant. One day last winter I was cross-country skiing along a jogging trail. A tall man dressed in a ski mask and a black jogging suit ran toward me. It was dusk in a busy residential neighborhood, but his size and shape frightened me. As he approached, he said my name and I realizied it was my own husband.
"Men are fearful for their women friends and family and aware that women are afraid of them. A male student complained that he hated rape. He said, "When I walk across campus after dark, I can see women tense up. I want to reassure them I'm not a rapist." Another said, "I haven't dated a girl yet who trusts men. Every girl I've cared for has been hurt by some guy. They are afraid to get close. It's so much work to prove I'm not a jerk."
"But mostly rape damages young women. They become posttraumatic stress victims. They experience all the symptomsdepression, anger, fear, recurrent dreams and flashbacks. The initial reaction is usually shock, denial, and dissociation. Later comes anger and self-blame for not being more careful or fighting back. Young women who are raped are more fearful. Their invisible shield of invulnerabilty has been shattered. Forty-one percent of rape victims expect to be raped again; 30 percent contemplate suicide; 31 percent go into therapy; 22 percent take self-defense courses and 82 percent say that they are permanently changed.
"Our daughters need time and protected places in which to grow and develop socially, emotionally, intellectually and physically. They need quiet time, talking time, reading time and laughing time. They need safe places where they can go to learn about themselves and others. They need places where they can take risks and make mistakes without fearing for their lives. They need to be valued for their personhood, not their bodies.
"Today girls are surrounded by sexual violence. We have emergency treatment for sexual casualtiestherapists, hospitals, rape crisis centers and support groups. But we also need a preventive program. We need to work together to build a sexual culture that is sensible, decent and joyful."
-Mary Pipher, Ph.D. in Reviving Ophelia
Almeda | 29.12.02 13:05 | TrackBackIt's a very difficult subject. It would seem as though rape has the key things men want: Power and sex. It disgusts me... How can a man contemplate rape? You have to completely forget that the other person has feelings. I imagine it must be very difficult for a man, as well (not nearly as painful as to a woman, though). Think about it: His self is so warped that he treats a human being like a mere toy; Something to give him pleasure, and not worthy of thought or consideration. Perhaps part of the problem in solving the issue of rape is convincing the man himself that he realizes that there are better ways to find pleasure. Though this might not always be realistic... A very difficult subject, indeed.
Posted by: Ruairi Ó Coileáin on 29.12.02 08:32Hell, I want power and sex, but I don't go around raping people. ;P
Posted by: Almeda on 29.12.02 08:40Maybe we just need to put the world's men on anti-depressants... I mean, I think the Zoloft makes it so I don't want to have sex. Or I don't want to have sex because of a decrease in Klonopin. Or maybe it's internal. Ahh, who the he[ck] knows anymore?!
Posted by: Ruairi Ó Coileáin on 29.12.02 11:33Fuck yeah. Kill society.
Posted by: Nina on 29.12.02 13:38Oh, and I really would like to slap across the face all these stupid kids who are now using this word casually and making jokes about it. Is nothing sacred or offensive anymore?
Posted by: Nina on 29.12.02 13:38Call me a radical, but I think rapists deserve the death penalty because rape is one of the most disgusting things I could possibly fathom. Anyone who does it would be well suited either to spend the remainder of their lives in a very, very dirty jail, or to be killed so no one has to look at them ever again.
...Anyway.
Posted by: ©ö|îñ on 29.12.02 15:01Well I'll call you a radical ©ö|îñ. I don't think rapists deserve the death penalty, but I don't believe anyone deserves the death penalty.
Of course rape is horrendous and deplorable, but getting on a moral high ground doesn't really do anything to help prevent rape, and of course the death penalty doesn't prevent crimes or criminal, after all what criminal thinks he will be caught? But as I was saying, think of what one would go through to become so twisted as to rape someone. It's easy to hop on the bandwagon and say, "Oh, these rapists are terrible people who don't deserve to live." So that my words are not taken out of context, let me emphasize that while rape is of course a terrible, traumatizing act that I would not wish on anyone, don't you think that it's possible for people to reform, and possibly even work to help prevent this sort of thing from occuring again in some instances?
On a lighter note here is a fun site.
http://www.jesusfun.com/hhhterms.htm
Ummm, I think if you've raped somebody you don't get the chance to reform. Bye-bye, get out of the gene pool, stop existing, you no longer deserve to be around.
Just my two cents. But y'know, to give you an idea of how hotheaded I am on this topic, I think Colin saying he's a radical for believing that is absolutely ridiculous. I take that for granted! :)
Allan, I see your point. But I'm also particularly sensitive on this issue, and I believe that some people DO deserve the death penalty.
Posted by: Nina on 29.12.02 19:08What gives any of us the right to decide that someone should die? I think that rape is horrible, and I think that rapists deserve hugely strict punishment. However, I also think it's pretentious for someone to dictate who gets to live and who gets to die.
Posted by: Abbey Sue on 30.12.02 07:38You're good at picking out controversial topics, Almeda. :)
Posted by: Ruairi Ó Coileáin on 30.12.02 08:10Good thing I don't dictate it, then. I just wish I did.
I agree that the decision shouldn't be on any one person's shoulders; I'm just stating that were it proper for that to be, that's where I stand.
She is, isn't she? :P
Posted by: Nina on 30.12.02 08:37I don't think rape is so much controversial as the death penalty is, and I didn't say anything about the death penalty. :P
However, I will admit I'm with Abbey Sue and Brinzy on this: the death penalty doesn't prevent the crime, people don't have the right to take other people's lives, and most of all, it's cruel, unusual, and unconstitutional.
Posted by: Almeda on 30.12.02 14:43I was having a discussion about this a couple of weeks ago. Is there more than one kind of rape? We have different levels of murder, after all. Should we treat a case where a wife suddenly says no in the middle of intercourse but her husband ignores it in the same way as a man who drags a woman off the street and rapes her? Whilst I completely agree that both are violations of a woman's sexual space, and therefore rape, I have a hard time convincing myself that both deserve the same punishment. Then again, I know people who think differently. Very difficult topic.
Posted by: David on 30.12.02 15:25